The relationships of young people never stand still, they develop, moving from one stage to another. And with each stage, the couple becomes wiser, stronger and stronger, if, of course, they can overcome love crises.

 

Relationships between a guy and a girl begin with falling in love. This is the most “blind”, pleasant step. During this period, young people idealize their choice, enjoy the time spent together, dream of the future and endlessly swear love. The couple communicates a lot, helps, supports, entertains each other. A man becomes braver, more attentive, more confident, takes care of himself, does crazy things for the sake of love. In women, activity, working capacity, mood increase. The stage of falling in love lasts no more than a year and a half. This emotional upsurge is associated with a hormonal surge, which is why such strong feelings are called chemistry.

 

When a girl begins to notice the shortcomings of her partner, the relationship smoothly flows into the second stage - satiety. Psychologists call this period stable, noting that a couple needs it in order to avoid emotional burnout. This is the time when people are still interested in each other, but are slowly returning to the reality of being. They devote less time to relationships, sad nostalgia for the past passion appears, and at the end comes awareness. If a couple maintains an alliance in the name of love, and does not chase emotions, it moves to the next stage of development.

 

The third stage of the relationship between a man and a woman is rejection. Psychologists call this time the stage of unjustified expectations. Rose-colored glasses break with a rattle, and out (suddenly) such qualities creep out from the chosen one that have never existed before. Young people begin to annoy each other's habits, characters, upbringing, words, and we only blame the partner for this: “You weren’t like that before. So you've been pretending before! Liar, rascal." This situation is exacerbated if the couple already lives in the same territory. The main thing here is to be able to find compromises, otherwise a bitter break cannot be avoided.

 

If the couple has the wisdom and strength to overcome the first crisis, the partners enter the stage of tolerance. This is a victory over illusions, vain disappointments, negative emotions. People grow up in each other's eyes and begin to think more rationally. It comes to the realization that a happy relationship is the complete acceptance of a companion by a whole person who has the right to his own opinion, mood, behavior and feelings. A person is no longer judged by his actions, no one is trying to remake him, mutual respect appears between partners, emotional adjustment is successfully performed. Here, already quite successfully, a couple can exist as spouses, planning the future and running a joint household.

 

Now that all the worst is over, the man and woman are moving on to the stage of service. This is a period of real mature relationships, where people have not only accepted each other with all the flaws, but also learned to appreciate a partner, invest their soul and knowledge in him, strive to develop relationships, help, respect and love for free. Service does not come from the word "serve", it has a different meaning. “To serve the interests of another person” - this is how psychologists interpret this step. These relationships are deep, adult, trusting, grateful, where values ​​are completely rethought.

 

Psychology calls the last stage in the union between a man and a woman true love. As a rule, such relations reign between spouses who have lived together for at least fifteen years. This is a spiritual type of relationship - the highest possible, where personal development in a couple continues uninterruptedly, where they have long learned to understand each other without words, where not an act, but the person himself is of great value. In this case, people are connected by kinship of souls: to achieve this means to find inner harmony!