It may be hard to hear what they have to say, but enlist loved ones to provide their thoughts and opinions about your relationship to remind you why you're breaking up with your partnerin the first place. "I'd consider reaching out to friends for more information," Dr. Casey tells POPSUGAR. "Maybe they've seen things that we've overlooked, and they can also help us remember the reasons why we should break up."

 

Creating a list is also a beneficial tool for breaking up with someone you still have feelings for. "Making a few lists can be helpful as we consider breaking up with someone we love," says Dr. Casey. While jotting things down, a few important things to consider are the pros and the cons of breaking up — imagine what you'd gain and what you'd lose by ending the relationship. It's also helpful to note what attributes and dispositional traits you want in a partner, and compare whether or not those characteristics align with the person you're currently with. Finally, how would your life look if you stayed with your partner?